10 things learned in the past year

Like most lessons, many of these are repeats, and now I get it even deeper. I hope this inspires you in your self-made lesson plan.

1 ~ When life happens, roll with it: Around this time last year a chain of unforeseeable events started in my personal life. By the time I got to the end of that chain, 5 months later, it felt like I’d been hit by a tidal wave. When the first challenge came, I pressed on, determined to be unshaken. By the time the rest of the challenges stacked up, I felt as if I had died and wasn’t sure what mattered anymore. I was shaken, stirred and on an odyssey to rediscover everything. When I let go and rolled with it, I found deep gratitude for all the lessons that came my way.

2 ~ Perspective is paramount: I know by now you’re guessing it was the economy. Actually, the news of Wall Street was mostly background noise to the challenges I faced, which included hospitals, the death of loved ones, accepting that I would not be having children of my own, and wondering if anyone really wanted to learn what I wanted to share (self-doubt is so syrupy isn’t it?). My “tidal wave” was a mere ripple in comparison to what some people have experienced in the past 12 months. I am so grateful for the way these events got me to step back and take a long slow look at it all. I softened my focus, widened my view, and tried on other people’s ideas. This practice helped me let go even more, saved me from getting stuck in grief, and opened me up to new possibilities. Continue reading

Fear’s Antidote

You know what’s happening when you’re feeling fear or anxiety anywhere in your body?

Your vision gets narrow, literally and figuratively, shutting down your creativity and your options. You get tight muscles and can start sweating (the stinky kind!). YIKES!

In the face of all the financial news, the air in any public space seems to be thick with fear and anxiety.

Emergency Measures are called for here.

And I’m NOT talking about a bailout. I’m talking about getting your mindBody aligned to help you.

Get up right now, out of your chair (or at least sit up as tall as you can) and start a gentle bounce, a jiggle, a shimmy, a shake. This is the fastest way to change the body chemistry of fear. (Yes, I can show you the research about this and I’m NOT going to distract you with a link here. Come on, get going. Start shaking it out of you.)

Ramp it up a bit.

Play with the VOLUME of shaking you’re doing.

Make it big. Make it little. Make it work for you.

(TIP: If you are not in a place to do this physically, close your eyes and VISUALIZE shaking. That will still help you! All those muscles will still fire.)

Now find your own ending to that and notice what’s going on in your body.

Do you feel any looser?

Still a stuck, frozen place?

Put your hand on that part of you and find a way to gently rock that part of you. And listen to that spot. Give it what it needs. Then move it into a jiggle, like you’re soothing a baby.

Listen to your body.

It’s the control panel for your Spirit while you’re on the planet. What’s it saying? The Ghestalt therapists say that Anxiety is Excitement without Support. Ask this part of yourself what kind of support it needs. And then for your own sake, follow through and deliver that support in any way you can!

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